The following are some tips for constructive communication with the children:
1. Listen attentively. The first consideration in being an effective communicator
is being a good listener. Eliminate distractions; make eye contact; and pay
attention to what the child is saying. If you are unable to listen attentively, let
the child know that this is not the best time to talk.
2. Talk with (not at) children. Talking “at” someone is a one-sided conversation.
Talk to children as you would a friend in order to create an atmosphere that
fosters discussion and encourages confidences.
3. Use conversation starters. Phrases such as “Tell me about that.” And
“Really?” invite children to say more about a particular topic while expressing
the idea that their thoughts are worthy and appreciated.
4. Use more “Do’s” than “Don’ts.” State directions positively, telling children
what you want them to do rather than what not to do.
5. Make requests simple. Avoid giving several directions at one time to increase
children’s chances of understanding.
6. Make important requests firmly. Get the child’s attention before speaking,
and speak as if you mean it. Be sure to state the reason why the child must
do this particular thing.
7. Use considerate language. Communicate acceptance by using kind,
encouraging words and avoiding sarcasm. Common courtesies such as
“please” or “thank you” show respect while modeling appropriate manners.