1. Establish rapport with parents and families. Aside from the typical home visit,
communicate to families all year that you value them and their role in the life
and education of their child. Learn the names of siblings, pets, or other people
living with the children. Without presenting yourself as being nosy, express
interest in or concern about events going on in the child’s home. Encourage
the children to make cards or gifts for birthdays, Mother’s day, Father’s day,
relatives who are sick, and so on.
2. Maintain communication throughout the year with letters, notes, phone calls,
and brief exchanges whenever possible. If you even consider whether or not
an incident positive or negative warrants a phone call, DO IT! Parents
appreciate your effort in making the call ten times more than the actual information
3. Make an extra effort for a new family in the area or a new child to the class.
Welcome them to visit the school, call you with questions, speak to previous
parents, and so on.
4. Utilize parents and families as a resource. Ask for input or advice, invite them
to join you on field trips or special events, invite them to share a talent with
the class, or invite a sibling to read to the class. Most parents are happy to be
a part of their child’s school experience.
5. Familiarize families with your goals and daily schedule for the classroom early
in the year so they know your priorities and are comfortable with the program.
Reasons for a Parent Conference (from the least to most challenging to conduct)
* Regularly Scheduled, Typical Conference: This is a parental briefing
(usually twice a year) to update them on their child’s good status.
* Regularly Scheduled, Some Concerns: The agenda will include some
issues you or the parents feel warrant discussion.
* Specially Scheduled: This is requested by you or the parent to discuss
a specific problem, concern, or event.
Tips on Conducting the Parent Conference
* Design the setting so that the parents will be as comfortable as possible.
Because they are on your turf, most parents are much more nervous
than teachers realize. If possible, consider playing quiet relaxing music
in the background, and provide comfortable chairs in a private space
where you don’t anticipate any interruptions.
* Begin the conference with a casual opening, such as, “Do you have
any specific questions or concerns you’d like to start with?” If they
have something on their minds, it will be difficult for them to listen
until they have expressed their thoughts. Furthermore, you can often
get an idea of what the parents view as the “agenda” for the meeting
by giving them this first opening. They may simply want to hear your
report so they can relax, or they may have a burning issue to raise.
* Do not come across as the “expert” on their child parents are the
experts on their children. The parents know their child better than anyone,
so be cautious. If appropriate, you may ask them what they do at
home regarding certain issues, or if they have suggestions for you that
may work better than your current methods. Many parents view the
teacher as the professional expert, but you’ll be much more respected
if you’re candid about what you know and think without attempting to
come across as a highly confident leading authority on child development.
Don’t be ashamed to say you’re not sure or you don’t have an
answer. You can always get more information, either by conducting
some observations of their child or seeking input from other staff members.
Then get back to them at a later date.
* In addition to being candid about what you don’t know, be assertive
enough to be candid about what you do know or feel. Your wording,
however, is crucial to your presentation and to parental reaction. First,
be sure to include some positive aspects about a child with whom
you’re concerned. Think through what you need to say, practice how
you say it, and imagine how you would react if you were the parent.
Whenever possible, try to phrase things in a positive form, such as,
“We’ve been encouraging Sue to share,” or “We’ve been working hard
on sharing” rather than, “Sue is not a very good at sharing.” Strive for
honesty, but do so in a professional and diplomatic manner.
* Do not breach the confidentiality of other families. You will often be
asked questions about other children and families in the classroom. Be
cautious about what information you feel is appropriate to share. Word
travels fast in circles of parents!
* Provide parents with suggested resources, book lists, or articles that you
think may be relevant. Again, be cautious not to communicate that
they need to educate themselves, but simply that they may be
* Be sure to document the conference. Make note of issues that are
raised, so that at a future date you may be able to revisit the conference
notes, provide follow-up information if needed, brief new staff,
and continue or update the discussion at your next conference.
* Gather as much information as possible before conducting the conference.
It’s handy to consolidate all the information onto one sheet of
paper, with the exception of any assessment tools or samples of artwork.
Be sure to include a few specific stories, keep anecdotal notes all
year in preparation for conferences, and ask all other staff for their
insight before conducting the conference. Consider the advantages and
disadvantages of having more than one staff member attend the conference.
On one hand, you may feel more comfortable and may have
more information simply because there’s more than one teacher present.
On the other hand, however, parents often feel more uncomfortable
and less apt to share at an emotional level if more than one
teacher conducts the conference.
* Allow some flexibility in scheduling conferences in order to accommodate
the needs of all who are interested in attending. Your time is valuable
too, so inform parents ahead of time as to how long you expect
conferences to last (usually about thirty minutes). Provide some type of
written or verbal reminder of the time and date of the conference.
* Encourage the parents to maintain the lines of communication, keep
you informed of how they’re feeling, and schedule another conference
soon if they feel an issue needs to be discussed further. Express appreciation
for their time and participation!